The Basics of Flogging
How to Flog Someone So They’ll Come
Back for More
By
Keith L. Kendrick
To the novice flogging may look easy, and actually it’s not that difficult, but
it does require concentration and physical exertion along with some practice.
However, knowledge of some basic guidelines can greatly enhance the learning
curve and enrich the experience for both the “top” and the “bottom”. And a
beginner would do well to practice on a wall or pillow, focusing on the intended
striking point.
Negotiate Before You Start
Before any flogging, the participants should negotiate what is desired and what
isn’t, along with what “safe-word” or other indication the “bottom” is to use to
slowdown or stop the flogging. Does the “bottom” like stinging or thud
sensations? How open is he or she to new experiences? Has this person had much
experience with flogging? Novices may think they can take lots of pain, and then
be surprised at what a good flogging actually feels like.
In addition, pertinent medical or physical problems should be made known before
beginning.
Flogging The Back
The basic area to flog is the upper back on each side of the spine. Try to stay
off the spine to prevent injury to the vertebrae and related tissues, and the
skinnier the person is the more important this is. Also avoid swinging the tails
down the back onto the hips or upper butt, or else this may cause a different
kind of pain that is undesirable. Rather than a full swinging motion (this isn’t
golf) that carries the tails down the back, stop the flogger immediately after
it hits or even pull it backwards in a snapping motion right before it hits. By
varying this motion you can control how much of the tails connect with the back;
more will cause greater thud while hitting with just the tips will be stingier.
Wrapping
Generally speaking, avoid unintentional ”wrapping,” which is when the tips of
the tails wrap around a curved part of the body such as the shoulders, torso,
butt or legs. In wrapping the tips accelerate tremendously and the resulting
excessive force at the tips almost always causes an undesirable increase in
pain. One difficulty in avoiding wrapping is that the tips can fly so fast that
you may have trouble seeing them--a person sometimes has to estimate where the
tails are hitting, especially in darker environments. In addition, when throwing
a flogger people often have a tendency to lunge forward, which can cause
wrapping if it’s not compensated for. On rare occasions a bottom may desire
wrapping, but then this should be done by mutual agreement and with care to not
overdo it.
Other Targets
Other targets: the butt is very inviting, yet because of its smaller size and
roundness it requires greater accuracy to avoid excessive wrapping onto the hips
or into the especially sensitive “inner” areas; also avoid hitting the tailbone.
When flogged well, though, the butt can be very rewarding. The thighs can be
flogged but should be done with extra attention to the power in wrapping. Female
breasts should be flogged relatively lightly to avoid later medical problems,
and this may be more important if they are flogged often; males can usually
safely take more in this area. Generally other parts of the body, especially the
kidney area, shouldn’t be flogged except maybe with very light, miniature
floggers. Stay away from all joints of the legs and arms, and the head and neck
should never be flogged.
Also be aware that there is a big difference in flogging someone in the standing
position versus lying down.
Warm Up & Timing
Start with softer blows and work up gradually to harder ones--this way the
bottom will be able to take more as well as get more out of the session.
Similarly, if you have more than one flogger, use the lighter one before going
to the heavier one. In addition, varying the pace and alternating heavier blows
with softer ones (or using just the tips), can make the difference between a
good flogging and a great one.
During a flogging the top also needs to be sensitive to the nuances of how the
bottom is handling the experience and when to vary the strokes. And after the
bottom has recuperated from the flogging, the top can learn valuable information
by obtaining the bottom’s perspective on what it was like.
Thud vs Sting
The top should understand that softer/heavier tails will generally cause thud,
while harder or narrower tails will cause more sting--rubber or braided leather
tails are usually the most stingy. And these differences are best understood by
experiencing them on one’s own skin. A flogger also needs to be thrown fast
enough so the tails don’t fly apart and land inaccurately--because of this it’s
very difficult to use a heavier flogger in place of a lighter one to achieve the
blows that a lighter flogger would deliver. This is why people often have more
than one flogger.
Health & Safety
Occasionally during a flogging a small amount of blood may appear on the skin as
a result of a blemish being broken open. How blood and other body fluids on a
flogger should be dealt with is controversial; disinfectants and leather
conditioners can alter the leather and having different floggers for every
bottom isn’t practical.
First of all, have band-aids available and apply one as soon as any break in the
skin is noticed. If any blood or body secretions have gotten on the tails, they
should be wiped with a dry cloth while wearing a glove (there shouldn’t be
much!). Then before using the flogger on another person it should be hung to
air-dry in a warm, dry place for two weeks--the drying action will kill the AIDS
and hepatitis viruses. Some would suggest cleaning the tails with a cloth
moistened with a fresh solution of bleach mixed 1 part to 10 parts water and
then waiting 10 minutes before using the flogger on someone else. A few may
suggest both the bleach solution and then drying for two weeks, but this may be
more than is needed. On the other hand, we are talking about AIDS and hepatitis.
The best approach is to avoid getting blood and other body fluids on your
floggers. However, the flogging action will tend to wipe blood away and make a
tiny skin break difficult to see. Therefore checking a bottom’s skin after a
flogging for signs that any blood may have gotten on the flogger would be wise.
A few would even say that the same flogger should never be used on more than one
person per day, but that is not actually a sufficient length of time to be safe
from hepatitis. Others say that the risk of catching AIDS or hepatitis from
floggers is very minimal, yet this would be almost impossible to verify with
certainty.
The Last Word
Finally though, always remember: If someone is trusting you enough to let you
flog them, you owe it to him or her to be sensitive and careful; and secondly,
flogging is ultimately supposed to be gratifying to both parties.
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